Resistance is Futile

A frequent word found in the language of the Law of Attraction, is resistance. Resistance is any thought, word or action that hinders or slows our natural energy flow and abundance.

Each one of our resistances may seem like such a small issue:

Desire: I want a new car.
Resistance: I don't know how I can afford it.

Desire: I don't like the way he/she does this or that.
Resistance: I'll just deal with it.

Desire: I am going to win the Super Lotto.
Resistance: (Desperately thinking) I hope I win this time.

Desire: The love of my life.
Resistance: I am too overweight, he/she won't like someone as overweight as me.

Desire: I'm moving toward my ideal weight.
Resistance: This diet stuff sucks. I'll have one doughnut today.

Desire: I am achieving great success in my career.
Resistance: Jimmy keeps spending time with the boss, that brown-noser, I'll never get ahead.

Each one of our resistances by itself doesn't seem like much, but over time, in my case 46 years, there is some build-up of resistance.

Think of how a garden hose allows the flow of water from one end to the other end. Or in terms of LoA, the hose (our life) carries the water (our dreams) from Source (the faucet) to manifestation (watering the plants). Now, if we were to put some small pebbles in the hose, the flow of water may be slightly interrupted. Maybe not noticeable at first, but keep adding pebbles, more resistance, and the flow is more restricted. Water still flows, but at a much reduced rate. Dragging that hose around the yard becomes a heavy burden with all the weight of the pebbles and it takes longer to water each plant or area of your garden.

Same with us. Our bodies are the hose and the flow of energy through us is like the water. Now, each negative thought, word or action (resistance) acts as a pebble in the hose. A small number of these resistant thoughts are not much of a hindrance, but over time, when we allow these negative thoughts to stay with us, they accumulate and create greater barriers to our natural state of flowing energy.

Getting the pebbles out of the hose is a relatively simple matter, dump out the pebbles. If the hose is kinked or twisted in a knot, well, the pebbles get stuck until we straighten out the hose to allow the pebbles to come out. In life, we have kinks and knots in our hose and with a little time and effort, we can get the kinks out and undo the knots.

There are numerous ways of releasing our own blocks, Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT), yoga, meditation, psychotherapy, etc. Each method has it's benefits, some work for one person, another may work for someone else. If you want your energy to flow easily, you need to remove the resistance. How you remove the resistance is up to you. For me, I like EFT, meditation and yoga. Currently I'm doing more EFT and meditation.

Do you need to remove all resistance? Of course not. Remember the analogy of the hose when we first put in a few pebbles, we didn't see any noticeable restriction of water flow? Same here with our energy. By stopping to put in more resistance and reducing or eliminating the blockage resistance we currently have, we will return to a more natural flow of energy.

Use a hose filled with pebbles, the daily watering takes longer due to the resistance of the pebbles blocking in the hose. Use a free flowing hose and the time each day watering our seeds of desire is less, so we can spend more time doing other enjoyable activities. Before you know it, the seeds have germinated and you have enjoyed life so much more because you were not burdened with all the pebbles in your life.

Sure I work on removing my resistance pebbles. I hope you do too. By reading this I hope you see value to work on removing as many resistances you have to let more of the energy of Source flow through you.

Tips For Getting What You Want (part 2) Things

In this second installment of this series I'm giving suggestions on ways to get more of what you want.

In Bob Doyle's Wealth Beyond Reason (aff) program he strongly emphasises focusing on what you want. Not how to get what you want, not how much money you need to get what you want, but focus on what you want.

The simplified steps of using Law of Attraction are:

Be clear of what you want.
Visulaize what you want.
Take action.

Here is an example of what I'm talking about. Let's say you want a bicycle. Describe the type of bike you want, a blue 10 speed.

Then visualize and feel yourself riding the bicycle and the wind blowing through your hair. See yourself riding in the countryside with green grass, trees, etc. See yourself riding with your family or friend on a nice outing. Maybe you need the bike as transportation to work, then visualize yourself riding the bike to work. See the route you take to get to work. See yourself locking up the bike at work. See yourself putting the bike away when you get home.

Now, after the visualization, you need to take action to get that bike. You can go to a bike shop and look at bikes, test ride them. Rent a bike and go for a ride, all the while visualizing owning your own bike. Now you've solidified the feelings even more by actually living the dream. Maybe you don't own the bike yet, but you are adding energy to the visualization.

Continue taking action to get the bike. Ask yourself "what are the ways you can get a bike?" Buy one. Steal one. Find one. Have one given. Inherit one. Can you think of other ways?

You've set up the vibration of what you want, you've put it out to the universe. Now believe the circumstances are lining up. Here are some resources available to help you get what you want.

Before looking through these resources, keep in mind of what you want. Take the time each day to use one resource or use several resources during each week.

Local newpapers. Of course these are a major resource that have been around for centuries. I don't have any historical information about how long they have been used for giving away items or selling items at reduced cost over retail, but certianly they are one source of finding your desires.

Craigslist There are different craigslists for different cities. Once you find your city, you can look at ads for just about anything, jobs, real estate, places to rent, furniture, clothing, relationships, etc. You can post ads for items you want or items you are selling or giving away.

FreeCycle This is a new resource I just learned about. Unlike cragislist, this site is only for free items to be given away. You can post what you are giving away or you can post what you want to be given to you. It is preferred that your first post is to give away something and then to balance your posts to give away with posts for your requests.

eBay Of couse you'll need to buy something here. You can also post what you are looking for. I recently spent about four weeks bidding on some software I wanted. The seller was running 3 day auctions. I had a limit to how much I wanted to pay for this software with shipping and finally on New Years day I won the auction and actually paid less than any other previous auction and about $6.00 less than my maximum bid.

Business Cards / Calling Cards Ever see the bowl at a business or restaurant asking for your business card to win a free breakfast, lunch, dinner, etc. 2007 was a good year for me using business cards. My card was drawn three times. More than all other times in past years. Getting cards is simple. Buy the blanks at any office supply location and print your own at home. Nothing fancy. I just print my own with my name, phone number and webaddress.

Here is an example of how I recently used Craigslist.

My kids are growing, like all kids do, and they need some more clothes. I could go buy new clothes, worry about how I'm going to pay for them. I could buy cheap by going to a major discount store, cheaper, but still an expense. I could go to a thrift store, cheaper still but also an expense. Hmmm, now what do I do?

I posted an ad in Craigslist and got offers of clothes from people all over San Diego County. I got more offers of clothes than I can use. Does it matter if these are new clothes? No. I don't allow myself to worry about not having new clothes for my kids. Heck, they either outgrow them quickly or wear them out from use. Besides, I give away lots of old clothes and stuff when they are no longer useful, so I figured there is stuff out there for me too.

By worring about these issues, then I set up resistance to attracting more into my life and that just slows the whole process down. I'm all about attracting positive experiences and in receiving so much generosity from the Universe I feel very blessed and grateful for the abundance that came into my life.

I hope these suggestions help you or inspire to think of other ways to get what you want.

Related Posts:
Tips For Getting What You Want (part 1) Money
Tips for Getting What You Want (Part 3) Books

“My GREAT 2008″

I have to tell you that 2008 was the best year ever. When I read Lyman's and Vickie's posts about their 2008 experience, I just had to share my joy and exuberance about how well this Law of Attraction stuff works when one keeps on working on themselves.

It all started on January 1. A piece of my mail was mis-sorted among the roommates I was living with at the time. When it was passed to me, it turns out to be a check from a restaurant survey I did sometime previous. WOW! What a great way to start the year.

Later that day, I won an eBay auction for a piece of software that I had been bidding on for the previous 3-4 weeks. I forgot I was even bidding on the item since I had the auto bidder running. It turns out that not only did I win, but the winning bid was the lowest in the past several weeks and even $6.00 less than my maximum bid. Another WOW experience to start the year.

The next several days I received a check in the mail, won stuff at work or online, got free tickets to the zoo, won a couple of hundred dollars at the lottery and in the casino and numerous other affirmations of my ability to manifest positive things in my life. All this and it was only January!

The rest of the year was absolutely amazing. Since then, my blog readership skyrocketed, I put together 3 commercial real estate deals and put the finishing touches on the business plan for my game store. I bought a 4 bedroom 3 bath house, complete with swimming pool, backyard BBQ area and outdoor fireplace. I took my kids on a 3 day land / 4 night sea Disney cruise in the Caribbean, took myself and my new girlfriend on a cruise, bought a hybrid SUV and so many other great things that happened my head is just spinning from all the excitement just remembering these experiences.

In 2008 I got in the best physical shape since my 20's. It seems I have more energy now, than I did in college when I involved with all the clubs and activities.

Most importantly, I dropped so much resistance, worry and fear. It was like taking off several layers of clothes. ( See my post I'm Looking Forward to Getting Unclothed. )

WOW! I am so looking forward to 2009.

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The above post is an example of the Power of Intention. The idea I picked up from Vickie's post Intending An Amazing 2008.

I love "Thoughts from the Universe"

I signed up for the "Thoughts from the Universe" daily messages through TUT's Adventurer Club and got this message today. It very simply tells how the Law of Attraction works.

By the simple act of thinking, Dean, vortexes are created, invisible energies are applied, and circumstances begin creeping to make real what was previously just imagined. This supernatural pull of your thoughts continues long after you think them, whenever there follows intent, expectation and action; moving mountains, parting rivers, and doing the "impossible" until there is the inevitable manifestation.

This is how your "thoughts becoming things." How they physically become things in a dimension that already exists, with billions of players and massive momentum. Not by appearing out of thin air, but through a manipulation of such forces in the unseen that literally begin shifting, morphing, and arranging all of the elements in your life so as to deliver to you the nearest equivalent of what you've been thinking. In other words, the "law of attraction."

"Thoughts becoming things" explains the law of attraction. It's why there is a law of attraction. And unlike any other 3 words in all the vocabularies of all the languages in the world, "thoughts become things" tells you exactly where you fit into the picture, as the thinker, the decision maker over what you will think about, revealing your power as a supernatural, all powerful, unlimited, CREATOR.

But, of course, many prefer not to think of themselves as so phenomenally powerful.

The Universe

Just thought I'd share this with you.

Back to Basics: Building Belief

This week I'm focusing on the basics of Law of Attraction for Beginners: Building Belief.

Here is some informtion for review:

See my Definition of Law of Attraction

See my definition of How Law of Attraction Works: Quantum Physics

Today's new post is meant to address the times when we doubt and get frustrated with things not manifesting. This happens when we are attached to the desire, we set-up ressitance and block ourselves from manifesting.

The million dollar home, the black Mercedes, the 200' yacht, traveling around the world for a year, etc. are all great things I can have. But sometimes I hear that little ego voice telling me, "Yeah right! How are you going to get that?" Then doubt creeps in and I once again see the lack in my life. Crash goes the belief system.

So, back to basics. Take little steps to build up the belief system.

The Parking Space Exercise:

How to get that parking spot close to the movie theater, the mall entrance, the stadium, etc. Parking spaces are easy because we are not so attached to the manifestation.

Since there is no attachment to making this happen, your life doesn't come to an end. So, you don't get the close parking spot, big whoop, you walk an extra 30'.

Before you leave one location: home, the office, a firend's house and you know where you are going; the mall, the grocery store, the movie theater, etc. sit for a moment or two and visualize your whole drive, each stop light, each turn and driving up to the parking spot you want. See the spot open for you as you approach. Feel yourself being excited that you get to park so close to entrance. Be appreciative of this close parking spot and thankful for the safe drive to the mall, the store, wherever. (I visualize the whole trip so that I can manifest the whole trip safely.)

I love doing this. The grocery store I frequent near my home has parking stalls right in front of the store. No crossing traffic, I mean right there at the front of the store. I visualize doing this almost all of the time. I say "almost" because sometimes after I pick-up my kids and heading home, I get more involved in talking with them than I do manifesting a parking spot. But even then, I do get a spot up front more times than not. I believe, because I'm use to finding a space up front most of the time anyway, I have a positive expectation that'll I get one each time I go shopping. When I don't get one, I just park and say "It's a nice walk to the store with my kids."

Remember the basics. Do the little steps that build up your confidence and expectations that you can do this.

What do you do to build your belief that Law of Attraction works for you?

"I've Lost That Funky Feeling"

I recently wrote that I have been doing some energy work and was feeling a bit on the ill side. Being ill is a physical manifestation of some negative energy that is being carried around or that we hold within our emotional or mental bodies. If we hold on to this negative energy long enough and the illness manifests into a disease. At the risk of stealing someone else's idea, hyphenate the word disease, dis-ease, and you have no life of ease. Notice how you feel uncomfortable when ill? How good you feel when healthy?

Anyway, on with my story.

I've been using Thought Field Therapy (TFT) and Emotional Freedom Therapy (EFT) to clear out blockages and negative energy. (No, I'm not going to discuss why I've been doing both here.) I've been routinely listening to audio programs and reading. By that I mean more an action of habit without really getting into the audio or the reading. Yes, I intended to read/listen with the intent to get out of the funk, but I kept holding on to the funk. I felt alright, just funky.

Interesting, it didn't crack until Friday when I went for one of my morning walks. This walk was good. It was a walk focusing on eliminating this funk, to become clear and high vibing again. It was a walk with a purpose.

The walk itself was pleasant. I live in an area of San Diego called Scripps Ranch. "County Living" is the motto on some signs about the area. There is a lake, maybe a pond depending on the legal descriptions of a lake and a pond, about 400 hundred feet from home. Some homes are overlooking this lake. An abundance of eucalyptus trees surround the lake and there are some fish, frogs, birds, etc. in the micro-habitat. Overall, I quiet and pleasant environment.

While almost home, I saw in the distance a woman with a good sized dog. I think it was some type of retriever. Well, this dog seemed to be bigger than her. If the dog was standing on it's hind legs, it certainly would have towered over her. She stood about 5'2". It appeared to have more weight and mass than her, I'm guessing she weighed about 120 pounds and the dog about 180. (I'm comparing the size and weight of this dog to the St. Bernard I had many years ago.)

Now, I'm feeling a bit more positive and upbeat after this walk. Good for me. Seeing her 'working' at holding her dog back, I thought I'd make a cute little remark "Who's taking who for a walk." Nothing unusual about this. It's the same remark many people made to me while I was walking George, my Saint. It's also the same remark I've made to others who were walking big dogs and always got a cute reply back like "I'm supposed to be the one walking the dog" or "he's taking me out for the walk today" or something generally considered a pleasant exchange between neighbors walking past each other.

Boy, was I in for a shock when she said with a scowl "I'm taking the dog for a walk thank you!" I was taken aback by such a comment that she definitely took the wrong way. I turned after her to apologize for being misunderstood and her reply was "I don't need any more of your rude comments, just let me walk without being bothered by you."

WOW! My first thought was she must know my ex-wife. Then I got introspective and went over the conversation trying to figure out what I did wrong. A few feet later, one guy in a painting crew getting ready to start work, looked at me and we nodded heads and he said "How you doing?" I responded "Great, thanks." I thought, 'until I met her' but decided that I needed to drop the negative feelings that welled up inside for such an odd exchange of what should have been a pleasant passing of neighbors.

Walking the last 100 feet home, still feeling hurt for an attempt to be pleasant turning sour. I started to examine "What am I doing, feeling, thinking, that is putting off this energy that attracted this type of person to twist a quick exchange into an offensive and rude comment?" I thought, I've been dragging this negative energy around, "I've really got to drop this now." Then my thoughts shifted to her.

Being a sensitive person, I tried to understand her. I wanted to know how she might be hurting that tainted her vision of our exchange. After a moment, I realized that it didn't matter. I'm here and I've got to move on. I said I was sorry that she is in pain and went home, fed the birds, took a shower and went back out into the world. This time leaving home, I felt clearer, happier and higher vibed than I have in a couple of weeks.

In retrospect, it's interesting that I had been working on clearing out this funky feeling for sometime. It wasn't until this 'slap in the face' from a total stranger that I realized "I've really got to drop this now" really meant that 'I've got to drop this now.'

On a side note. I came across this from Tony Robbins, that if you want the answer to something, learn to ask the right questions. Now, at some point in the previous day or two, I remember sitting in the throne room wondering "how can I clear out this funky feeling? What do I need to do or say to get rid of this negative energy I'm carrying around?" Was I inspired to take this walk at that particular time to meet her for this experience, just because I asked these questions.

Funny, I don't always write my every thought, every word I say, everything I observe in my life, but it does always find a way to manifest. Let's try this "Do you see over there? That is my orchard of lemon, peach, pear, orange and apple trees. Over there is my herb and vegetable garden." Cool huh!

Archived Hidden Wisdom

Every once in awhile I go through the archives of some of the Blogs that I read and a post title will catch my eye. I seem to find the most wisdom in these older posts than in the current ones. Yes, the current posts are good, timely and well written, but they don't necessarily trigger something for me, at that time.

To me, opening an archive post is like some people opening up a book of knowledge or wisdom and reading the first page that the book reveals. It's a bit of a magickal process that works. That page, or post in my case, seems to be a message from the universe.

One post just caught my eye from Ed Mills at Evolving Times entitled The Size of Your Segment Does Matter. BTW, yes it is a clean article. :)

In brief, because Ed does such a good job explaining this, is that we break our day down into smaller chucks of intention segments. For example, upon wakening spend a moment seeing the overall vision and feeling for your entire day, then focus an intention for the morning preparation before leaving. See the kids getting ready quickly and easily, breakfast on the table, lunches packed and everyone out the door with everything they need.

Once in the car, intend the next smaller segment the travel to work. See and feel the smooth traffic flow, the music you are listening too, being to work on time.

Before going in, take a moment to plan your next segment, getting into work, booting up the PC, making pleasant good mornings to everyone. Before your meetings visualize the customer's your will talk with being pleasant, the sales presentations going very well and the buyers signing the contracts.

As you are about to leave for the drive home, once again intend this smaller segment of how well the traffic will flow, the kindness of the drivers around you, the short line at the supermarket picking up those last minute items(s) before going home. And once home, before leaving the car, intend a wonderful and refreshing home and family time for dinner and the rest of the night.

Thank you Ed for posting this back in February and Thank you Universe for leading me to this gem of wisdom.

My next segment is my morning hygiene ritual...showering. I do a lot of intentional creating in the shower. It's a bit of a cleansing process for the mind. Although a bath is more appropriate. I now consider showers the shorter segment of a bath.

(Hmmm, I think I have a new article in the works now.)

Word tricks to help use the Law of Attraction

Words, both written and spoken, are a powerful force in our world. We have seen words used to take us to numerous wars, propel our species to the moon, and to sell toothpaste.

Words are the means to share ideas and concepts with others. We use words to show and express emotions (vibrations) "I love you" and "I hate you." Hopefully you are saying and hearing "I love you" more. Words are one step toward manifesting our realities.

Words also advance our knowledge. Since the written word we have advanced faster than by oral tradition. Written words preserve knowledge of one generation allowing following generation to build upon that foundation of knowlege.

Words have inspired armies, united people, villified opposing ideals and seperated races. What can words do to us as individuals, besides enticing us to buy toothpaste?

Words can build us up and tear us down just as easily as uniting a nation against a common enemy. Words can encourage us to grow or limit and hold us back from development. "I'm scared." "I can't." "I'm not worthy." Since words are one step in the manifestation of our reality, these words indicate we are stopped or limted. We need to be aware of the words we use on and about others as well as ourselves.

I want to share with you some tricks I've learned to help use words to raise your vibrations, help you feel better and your life more joyful.

I've learned these from many sources over the years. Some have more appeal to me at different times and better effects in different phases of my life than others, but all have a positive impact.

1. Make positive statements about what you want.

I think I came across this more from being a parent than I did in personal development. I've been using it with my children and I've seen wonderful results. When I've wanted the children to do, act or respond in a certian way, I'll ask or tell them what I want them to do.

For instance, instead of using the negative statements:

Don't hit your sister/brother.
Don't throw the ball in the house.
Don't slam the door.
Don't forget your lunch.
Don't run out into the street.

I'll use positive affirming statements of what I do want them to do:

Be nice to your sister/brother.
Go play outside.
Close the door quietly.
Remember to take your lunch.
Stop and look before you go out into the street to get the ball. Or, stay on the sidewalk to be safe.

I've shared this with friends who have children and they tell me it's done great things for their parent/child relationships as well. (I wonder how it'll work on adults?)

It took me some time to modify the way I spoke to the kids on a regular basis and sometimes an urgent need arises and I use a negitive phrased statement. As soon as I catch myself, I restate in the positive.

2. "The world is plotting to do great things for me today. I'm looking forward to seeing what they are."

I picked this up from Jack Canfield's "The Success Principles" CD. I've modified the statement on the CD, for me, this has a more positive impact. I start my day early. When I'm waking up and listening to my alarm clock go off I'll say this phrase. (I wake up to the trees full of birds chirpping, cawing, hooting, etc. as dawn approachs.) While laying in bed between slumber and wakefullness, I think this phrase and visulaize many good things that can happen, things I want to happen and feeling grateful for what is happening now and happened recently. Boy, are my days really good and getting better.

3. Affirmations and Allowing Statements

I use affirmations with some regularity. Some of the affirmations I fully and completely believe and can accept easily:

I'm a safe and cautious driver, I arrive at all my destinations on time and in a safe and efficient manner.

Some affirmations we use may cause conflict with our limiting beliefs we have and will nullify or reduce the effectiveness of the affirmation. I learned some tools from reading Michael Lozier's book "Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don't" to neutralize the limiting beliefs we can add-on to an affirmation that hinder our growth.

Allowing statements on the other hand, are positive affirmations that our desires can be reached as eveidenced by examples and proof that others have accomplished the same goals or similar desires. By using third person examples, we avoid tagging our affirmations with a negative thought that reduces the effectiveness of the affirmation. For example:

"I earn $100,000.00 or more each year."

Sure, some people can easily find this a positive and exciting affirmation. Some still see the contrasting current situation and our ego creeps in and says something like "Oh, yeah, sure. Uh huh, what about this...and this...and this." These ad-on or tag-on statements nullify or reduce the effectiveness of the affirmation.

Allowing statements work differently.

"Every year, there are thousands of people who earn $100,000.00 or more each year."

Of course that is true. We can find evidence of this in news reports, magazine articles, on the internet, stories, etc. It's easy to get excited knowing that others have acheived this level of income. Why get excited about another's success, because jealously is a negitive emotion and emits negitive vibrations. Another example:

"Every day, there are people who are meeting their ideal partner for their life long happiness."

Get excited everytime you see couples walking hand-in-hand, kissing, hugging, etc. Seeing this, and desiring to have a more loving partner and healthy relationship go hand-in-hand to increase your vibrational level and help you visulaize you being in a relationship.

4. "I'm in the process of..."

Sometimes the conflict between current reality and our desires stops us. I've used this statement for years. Mostly when fighting off a cold or illness while building up my immune system. So, instead of saying "I'm sick" I'd say "I'm in the process of fighting off this cold, and I'm winning."

Now I'm using this with more deliberate use of attracting other desires.

5. Gratitude Journal and Recording Your Proof.

I've posted in this blog numerous times of my gratitude for experiences. That was done more sporadically when the feeling of gratitude for an exeptional experience was very high. Recently I've writing a gratitude journal nightly. Since then I'm feeling and experiencing a greater sense of happiness where ever I go. It appears to me that I'm more aware of the little things in my environment that make me smile and feel more grateful each day.

Additionally, I'm writing about all the things I see as signs of manifestations on the way or the actual manifestations. By recording these experieneces, I document proof that they are actually happening and comming into existance. Leaving this to memory is fine, for a short term, but the ongoing journaling makes for compelling evidence that good things are happening and in the process of becomming. Some examples, I was given a tour of a local Unity Center that a friend of mine goes to on a regular basis. While showing me some meeting rooms, we found a local Toastmasters club meets there and the person setting up is in Corporate Training and Development. Since I'm changing careers, this is a good sign that I experienced that I'm on the right track.

Well, I've shared several ideas with you about using words that can inspire and lift up your vibrations. There are plenty more that I'll share here and many more elsewhere to find.

Enjoy life more often.