Friday, August 24, 2007

The Most Important Part of the Law Of Attraction (IMHO)

Appreciation and Gratitude

I became exposed to the Law of Attraction in December 2006 through the movie The Secret. But what really struck a cord with me and has made the most difference in my life since seeing The Secret is Appreciation and Gratitude.

Since applying appreciation to my daily life, wonderful things have started to come into my life. Other than the goodies that have come into my life (two massages, breakfast, lunch, movie tickets, gift cards to several places) I see the world with a whole new approach and with new eyes. I see things with more perspective when appreciating what I have and when I get something I am very thankful.

Why do I say the most important part of Law of Attraction is Appreciation and Gratitude? Because, appreciating what I have sets my mind in the presence of now and is a high vibration. When in the emotion of appreciation, my senses open up, I feel lighter and more connected to source. When I appreciate, when I ame truly thankful, I feel filled with grace.

Think about this for a moment. Do you enjoy doing something for someone who is grateful for your work/actions/deeds? Would you keep doing something for those who are ungrateful or do not appreciate what you do? (psychological issues aside) For me, I tend to continue putting energy into relationships where I feel appreciated. Where gratitude is shown for my efforts, deeds, gifts, etc. I desire to continue doing for others. When I am unappreciated, I will seek out a way to find gratitude to be given to me from another source.

Fortunately, the universe passes no judgements on us for lack of appreciation of what we receive. But appreciating what we have and thankful for what we get raises our vibrations. (Abraham places Appreciation in the number 1 slot in the Emotional Guidance Scale.) That is what the universe reacts to, our vibrations. So it makes sense to keep putting out the higher vibrations so the universe responds to those vibrations more than others.

For some, showing gratitude or being thankful for what we receive gets in the way of their current experience. They are on the lower end of the Emotional Guidance Scale and vibrating at lower levels. Fortunately, gratitude is a habit that can be learned and developed.

When I was young, my parents taught me social skills. I was taught to say "thank you." "Thank you" became a habit that frequently carried no real feeling of gratitude. Sure, every once in awhile I received a gift that WOW'd me, someone did a special thing that really brought up the emotion of appreciation. But for much of our lives we say "thanks" out of societal expectation of courtesy.

So, some might ask "What do I have to be thankful for?" Consider this example by contrast.

If you are reading this, then you have a computer or at least Internet access at school or public library; therefore you live in a country that is full of abundance. By contrast there are people in this world that do not have Internet access, nor a computer, nor a local library, heck, not even enough food to feed themselves. And you think about how much you don't have. In contrast you live in abundance. Think about this for a minute. Really, think about this for a minute. Look at the society you live in compared to some who do not have enough good food or clean water.

Click here and go to The Hunger Site. Click on the "Click Here to Give - it's FREE!" button.

You might be looking at your current situation and comparing to some other lifestyle you want to experience. It's good to remember to briefly observe other lifestyles for comparisons to keep some perspective. Now you have something to be thankful for, living in an advanced society.

"OK Dean, I live in an advanced society, and surrounded by abundance, but I could never manifest anything I want."

On the contrary. We manifest EVERY day. You wake, you are hungry and desire to eat something. You seek a way to satisfy your desire by finding food either in the kitchen, the grocery store, a restaurant, mom and dad's house, etc. You have a job that brings in money so you can exchange for food, shelter and clothing. Why do we poo poo this manifestation of our desires (to eat every day) because it is such a common and repetitive manifestation that we do not appreciate that food is so plentiful in most modern societies. We all work, earn money, each day because we desire to eat several times a day. What if you didn't work? Would you be thankful for when you do get a job that allows you to buy food once again. Are you thankful when a friend/family member/stranger feeds you? So be thankful each and every meal. Be thankful each time you get in your car, so you can go to work, go buy groceries, go to a restaurant. Be thankful for your education, whatever level you attained. Be thankful for (fill in the blank).

There are many exercises that help us build our skills and this is one that really I like. It uses something we might not fully utilize ever day, but we do use every day. Our senses. This exercise is high in value, raises vibrations, increases our awareness, and develops our appreciation.

When I walk out my front door and am more fully in the presence of nature, that is, unobstructed by the man made construction of a house/condo/apartment, etc. I allow myself to sense more of the beauty of the world. I take a moment and breath deeply of the morning air. Try it every day, take just a couple of deep breaths and smell the day. Notice the smells, exhaust of cars, fresh cut grass, woodsy smells from trees, scent of flowers, the smell of oil rising from the asphalt after a night of rain. Just sense these smells. Think, or say, "thank you for my sense of smell."

Open your eyes and look around w/ purpose to see the trees and their leaves, plants, grass, the sun's light on everything, the shadows created. Look at the various shades of greens and browns, cloud formations or the cloudless sky. Look at the cracks in the sidewalks, the colors of houses, the variety of car styles. Just appreciate your sense of sight. Get excited that you can see all the beauty. Think, or say, "thank you for my sense of sight."

Stop and listen to the environment. The birds chirping, hooting, cawing. Notice the car engines running smoothly or roughly, people washing the breakfast dishes, kids laughing on the way to school. Or, notice the silence and quiet of the morning. Think, or say, "thank you for my sense of hearing."

Really take this time to feel the temperature, the wind, the humidity. Use your senses. (OK, you can keep you tongue in your mouth, unless it's snowing.) Say a silent thank you for the beauty of the day you sense before you.

Now do all this again, about noon time. Notice the change in smells, sights, sounds, feel the difference of noon.

Do this once again at night.

Do this for one minute in the morning, noon and at night. That's three minutes a day. Out of 1440 minutes a day, you can spare three minutes for this exercise. Of course you can extend this longer which is more enjoyable.

So what does this have to do with appreciation? Simple.

It's very simple.

Appreciate the simple things in life. "Stop and smell the flowers." Literally.

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Patricia Singleton said...

Appreciation and gratitude are great tools to create a wonderful life. Being grateful and appreciative is so much better than complaining. Thanks for the great article.

Mike said...


Wonderful post, and I agree with you wholeheartedly. I think that is why Wallace Wattles devoted a whole chapter of The Science of Getting Rich to gratitude.


Dean Lacono said...

Hi Mike,

Thank you for your visit and comment.

I get such a kick out of being in the state of gratitude. It's such a great feeling.

Blessed Be.

iwgyi said...

Thank you. :-)

Carmen Black said...

I so appreciate what you have to say here. I too make it a practice every day to express and feel appreciation. I thank God for all the things I DO have and try not to spend time or brain energy thinking about what I don't want. It's too easy to think you're poor, but as you said, when you start comparing yourself to people in many other parts of the world, it then becomes very relative. So, yes, I think the number one thing to practice is gratitude.

Dean Lacono said...


Thank you for taking the time to leave a comment.

It interesting that even with a daily practice of being grateful or showing appreciation, some days it seems takes a bit longer to remember all the little things that happen, even when there are not "BIG" events that make the day.

Lots of little pieces make a big jigsaw puzzle. :)