I came across Bob Doyle like many people did, through his appearance in the movie about the Law of Attraction called The Secret. I felt a connection with Bob's appearance and signed up for his program called Wealth Beyond Reason. Below is a link to a video he made as a response to some questions that people have about The Secretand The Law of Attraction. I thought I'd post this here since this is a Law of Attraction blog and I like what Bob has to say.
Wealth Beyond Reason / Bob Responds.
For more information check out Bob Doyle's site
Wealth Beyond Reason.
Sunday, June 17, 2007
Bob Doyle Responds
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Labels: Bob Doyle, Law of Attraction, Video
Sunday, June 10, 2007
EFT and Abraham-Hicks Emotional Scale
I just found a great article at Vickie's Contemplate This site about using EFT and the Emotional Scale. Also a follow-up article about specific example of how she used My Experience with EFT and Abraham’s Emotional Scale.
Good work Vickie.
Posted by Dean Lacono at 3:24 PM 1 comments
Labels: Emotional Freedom Technique, Emotions
Emotions and Desire
Some say that to “want” something is to feel lack. “I want a million dollars.” “I want someone to love.” Saying the words is one thing, but what of the feeling we put to those words? If one says in a whining, whimpering voice, “I want a Mercedes.” That conveys a feeling of lack. However, seeing a new Mercedes CLK550 Cabriolet cruising past, and your heart starts beating faster, your pupils dilate, and you say breathlessly “I want one of those!” THAT is desire. Keep that feeling as long as you can. I relish in my impulsive feelings of desire, especially when it is something that I’m working on currently. Remember that feeling each time you see that car, each time you look at it on your vision board, visualize and dream about it.
Law of Attraction states that whatever we vibrate, we attract; whether positive or negative. Emotions are our way of vibrating. Thinking about how good we look in our new clothes, disappointed about our beat-up car, the worry about paying our bills, the excitement of last night’s date are all emotions or feelings we have about these events. These emotions are our vibrations we are giving off to the universe.
These examples are good for what we are already experiencing. These are genuine, real feelings we have about our experiences. What about what we want or desire to experience? How can we create these feelings / vibrations? Here are a couple of things I’m doing:
1. Remember what the feeling was like when we actually did experience something similar.
Yes, living in the past is not always a good thing. What we are doing here is what actors call method acting. Recalling a past situation that is similar to what you want or desire for the future. For example: remembering the excitement of winning a tournament, the big game, making a big sale, being in love. We can recall feelings associated with past events, both good and bad. Now, keep those same feelings, preferably the good ones, and visualize new images, new pictures in your head about what you desire. You are the director of your play; you set the scene for yourself, the new images. The actor (you) draws on your past experiences and gives life to your new role, the one in your play with the new desires.
2. Go out and try it, feel it, experience it.
I love the smell of a new car. So for me, going to a car dealer helps me feel the contour of the driver’s seat, the thick padded steering wheel in my hands, looking out through the windows, going for a test drive, etc. Go to open houses in your neighborhood, or better yet, in the neighborhood that you would like to live in. Remember the feelings you get in the awesome rooms, pretend to brush your teeth in the master bathroom, sit on the sofa, etc. Go clothes shopping somewhere other than Wal-Mart or Target, some place that has a dressing area and plenty of mirrors. Admire yourself in some really nice new clothes. Breathe in the smell of the fabric, feel the texture of the cloth, notice the quality of the stitching.
Also observe what other thoughts you have when mating your feelings and your thoughts. Be aware of add-ons to your thoughts of desire. Seeing the Cabriolet zip by, your desire shoots sky high and you say “I want one of those...but I can never afford one” will dampen the fire of desire, weaken your emotion, or quiet your vibration. Let your heart sing. It’s ok to desire and want on a high vibrational plane.
Wanting and desiring are good, when you are thinking good thoughts and feeling good feelings. When there is resistance to feeling good about our desires, there is something negative in our past, which we also associate with desire or the item that we desire. But, that is another issue that will need to be explored later. For now, keep in mind that desire is the first step in creating our new life.
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Labels: Desire, Emotions, Vibrations
Friday, June 1, 2007
Word tricks to help use the Law of Attraction
Words, both written and spoken, are a powerful force in our world. We have seen words used to take us to numerous wars, propel our species to the moon, and to sell toothpaste.
Words are the means to share ideas and concepts with others. We use words to show and express emotions (vibrations) "I love you" and "I hate you." Hopefully you are saying and hearing "I love you" more. Words are one step toward manifesting our realities.
Words also advance our knowledge. Since the written word we have advanced faster than by oral tradition. Written words preserve knowledge of one generation allowing following generation to build upon that foundation of knowlege.
Words have inspired armies, united people, villified opposing ideals and seperated races. What can words do to us as individuals, besides enticing us to buy toothpaste?
Words can build us up and tear us down just as easily as uniting a nation against a common enemy. Words can encourage us to grow or limit and hold us back from development. "I'm scared." "I can't." "I'm not worthy." Since words are one step in the manifestation of our reality, these words indicate we are stopped or limted. We need to be aware of the words we use on and about others as well as ourselves.
I want to share with you some tricks I've learned to help use words to raise your vibrations, help you feel better and your life more joyful.
I've learned these from many sources over the years. Some have more appeal to me at different times and better effects in different phases of my life than others, but all have a positive impact.
1. Make positive statements about what you want.
I think I came across this more from being a parent than I did in personal development. I've been using it with my children and I've seen wonderful results. When I've wanted the children to do, act or respond in a certian way, I'll ask or tell them what I want them to do.
For instance, instead of using the negative statements:
Don't hit your sister/brother.
Don't throw the ball in the house.
Don't slam the door.
Don't forget your lunch.
Don't run out into the street.
I'll use positive affirming statements of what I do want them to do:
Be nice to your sister/brother.
Go play outside.
Close the door quietly.
Remember to take your lunch.
Stop and look before you go out into the street to get the ball. Or, stay on the sidewalk to be safe.
I've shared this with friends who have children and they tell me it's done great things for their parent/child relationships as well. (I wonder how it'll work on adults?)
It took me some time to modify the way I spoke to the kids on a regular basis and sometimes an urgent need arises and I use a negitive phrased statement. As soon as I catch myself, I restate in the positive.
2. "The world is plotting to do great things for me today. I'm looking forward to seeing what they are."
I picked this up from Jack Canfield's "The Success Principles" CD. I've modified the statement on the CD, for me, this has a more positive impact. I start my day early. When I'm waking up and listening to my alarm clock go off I'll say this phrase. (I wake up to the trees full of birds chirpping, cawing, hooting, etc. as dawn approachs.) While laying in bed between slumber and wakefullness, I think this phrase and visulaize many good things that can happen, things I want to happen and feeling grateful for what is happening now and happened recently. Boy, are my days really good and getting better.
3. Affirmations and Allowing Statements
I use affirmations with some regularity. Some of the affirmations I fully and completely believe and can accept easily:
I'm a safe and cautious driver, I arrive at all my destinations on time and in a safe and efficient manner.
Some affirmations we use may cause conflict with our limiting beliefs we have and will nullify or reduce the effectiveness of the affirmation. I learned some tools from reading Michael Lozier's book "Law of Attraction: The Science of Attracting More of What You Want and Less of What You Don't" to neutralize the limiting beliefs we can add-on to an affirmation that hinder our growth.
Allowing statements on the other hand, are positive affirmations that our desires can be reached as eveidenced by examples and proof that others have accomplished the same goals or similar desires. By using third person examples, we avoid tagging our affirmations with a negative thought that reduces the effectiveness of the affirmation. For example:
"I earn $100,000.00 or more each year."
Sure, some people can easily find this a positive and exciting affirmation. Some still see the contrasting current situation and our ego creeps in and says something like "Oh, yeah, sure. Uh huh, what about this...and this...and this." These ad-on or tag-on statements nullify or reduce the effectiveness of the affirmation.
Allowing statements work differently.
"Every year, there are thousands of people who earn $100,000.00 or more each year."
Of course that is true. We can find evidence of this in news reports, magazine articles, on the internet, stories, etc. It's easy to get excited knowing that others have acheived this level of income. Why get excited about another's success, because jealously is a negitive emotion and emits negitive vibrations. Another example:
"Every day, there are people who are meeting their ideal partner for their life long happiness."
Get excited everytime you see couples walking hand-in-hand, kissing, hugging, etc. Seeing this, and desiring to have a more loving partner and healthy relationship go hand-in-hand to increase your vibrational level and help you visulaize you being in a relationship.
4. "I'm in the process of..."
Sometimes the conflict between current reality and our desires stops us. I've used this statement for years. Mostly when fighting off a cold or illness while building up my immune system. So, instead of saying "I'm sick" I'd say "I'm in the process of fighting off this cold, and I'm winning."
Now I'm using this with more deliberate use of attracting other desires.
5. Gratitude Journal and Recording Your Proof.
I've posted in this blog numerous times of my gratitude for experiences. That was done more sporadically when the feeling of gratitude for an exeptional experience was very high. Recently I've writing a gratitude journal nightly. Since then I'm feeling and experiencing a greater sense of happiness where ever I go. It appears to me that I'm more aware of the little things in my environment that make me smile and feel more grateful each day.
Additionally, I'm writing about all the things I see as signs of manifestations on the way or the actual manifestations. By recording these experieneces, I document proof that they are actually happening and comming into existance. Leaving this to memory is fine, for a short term, but the ongoing journaling makes for compelling evidence that good things are happening and in the process of becomming. Some examples, I was given a tour of a local Unity Center that a friend of mine goes to on a regular basis. While showing me some meeting rooms, we found a local Toastmasters club meets there and the person setting up is in Corporate Training and Development. Since I'm changing careers, this is a good sign that I experienced that I'm on the right track.
Well, I've shared several ideas with you about using words that can inspire and lift up your vibrations. There are plenty more that I'll share here and many more elsewhere to find.
Enjoy life more often.
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Labels: Law of Attraction, Life Event, Manifesting, Parenting, Techniques